“From an outside perspective look at your relationships you can find out what makes you happy”

In the question it is asked if it is “wrong” to refuse a person on the basis of looks. I think that is very subjective and it really depends on the person to know what “wrong” is or is not. I think the question that the person should be asking is whether or not they will regret ending a relationship on the basis of any single character trait. For example, someone can be very good looking, religious, and kind but they might be as boring as dirt. Or someone may be good looking, religious, funny, but can have sudden temper flareups. Is it wrong to decline someone based on a boring personality or occasional temper flareups? Well it technically IS possible to live happily enough with someone with those traits, but the question becomes what is most important to you/what can you handle? Will you regret marrying the boring guy/girl when a few years later you meet someone not as good looking and maybe not as nice but who you can speak with for hours on end? For some people, making that sacrifice is fine – and I think thats what someone needs to find out. How much “imperfection” are you willing to tolerate? What are the imperfections that really bother you? There is no right or wrong – because someone will always have someting that falls under the wrong category.

I think the best way to figure this out is by looking at your relationship with your friends and family. Is there anything someone does that really annoys the hell out of you? Or something that makes your heart melt for your friend and love him/her that much more? Do you tend to stay away from ugly people when you choose a friend and think less of them? I think in listening to your thoughts and from an outside perspective look at your relationships you can find out what makes you happy and iA find someone who will! 

Original Post can be found here.