I don’t know what to do

I don’t know what to do

i really like a guy but i know it’s against my religion to pursue but i crave care which my mom can’t give me and i can’t go to my friends bc i have mostly different religion close friends and i don’t want to bother them im just so lost

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Response from a “Fatima Counselor”:

Assalaamu Alaikum,

I can understand how heavy this feels for you …. You’re caught between your faith, your emotional needs, and your fear of burdening others. That’s a lot to carry.

If you want to talk to your close friends about it but are worried about “bothering them,” you don’t have to unload everything at once. You could start with something small and gentle, like:Hey, I’ve been feeling really lost lately and just need someone to listen. Do you have space for me right now? Or like I don’t want to burden you, but I could really use a friend to talk to. Would that be okay?

Or maybe like ….I’ve been struggling with something personal. You don’t need to give advice, I just need someone to hear me out.
Good friends regardless of religion usually don’t mind listening, and sometimes they might even feel honored that you trust them enough to open up.

 If you feel like you can’t fully share with them because of faith differences, you could still express your need for care without going into detail.

For example:
I’ve just been feeling emotionally drained. Can we hang out or talk for a bit? I could really use the company.
You don’t need to dump too much at once.You’re giving them an easy out  if they’re busy.You’re still being honest about needing care.

From Your Sister in Islam,

“Fatima MV”

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