Sweetheart, your short but direct posting made my heart ache. I can’t imagine the emotional distress you must go through. Like Sister Fatima said, had there been more details- the advice could have been more specific. But like her, I will speak in general: I hope you have someone you can reach out to- a ... Read More
“I thought all there was to life was being like someone else. Truth is, everything you could ever need is within you. I started acknowledging all the strength and courage I possessed. I started to pray to God and acknowledged the connection I felt. I turned life around for the better and told myself, I am ... Read More
An important old article and lesson for all: The first person who benefits from an act of charity is the benefactor himself, by seeing changes in himself and in his manners, by finding peace, by watching a smile form on the lips of another person. If you find yourself to be in difficulty or distress, ... Read More
Salaams Sister, I think it is very brave of you to reach out and describe what you have gone thru. I know this because I can relate. I was sexually molested for about 5 years and this also started at an early age of 5-6. I was molested by my Father’s brother. What is worse ... Read More
Dear Brother, I’m going to write my personal thoughts on your situation. I truly believe that what you are going through at the moment is in fact the process of repentance. Let me explain. When we feel regret, remorse & shame upon any sins we have committed, it is a signal in our heart, from ... Read More
I had the same problem, sister. Alhamduliah, my husband has stopped, and InshaAllah, yours will, too. I don’t know how extreme your case is, but for my husband, it had been going on for many years before he met me. He told me about the problem before we got married, and I accepted it about ... Read More
In the question it is asked if it is “wrong” to refuse a person on the basis of looks. I think that is very subjective and it really depends on the person to know what “wrong” is or is not. I think the question that the person should be asking is whether or not they ... Read More
I agree with friends suggesting writing things down. Sometimes, especially when the decision is more complicated, it is not easy to process the information e.g. pros, cons, benefits, logic etc in our mind. I had to make a very tough decision recently that would change my life for ever. In order to come up with ... Read More
Subhanallah, I feel like I am reading my own life story. Such a bizarre feeling, but I’m amazed at how so many Muslim girls go though this problematic situation when trying to find a good husband. I firmly believe that a man should take you as you are when he first meets you and not ... Read More
Thank you for this story. It was a reminder to myself of where I used to be at one time and how far I have come with the Grace of Allah. Funny thing is, I’m a GUY. And I think it is very important for people to realize that it’s not only girls, but guys ... Read More
