“But know that Allah SWT only tests you with that which you can handle.”

I read your post a few days ago and have not been able to stop thinking about it since. It reminded me much about myself and was a means of self-reflection as well. I was in a very similar situation to yours while at your age, just a few years ago. But as one of the counselors above said, college really does being about new friends (lifelong ones iA) and wonderful experiences. I had been with my circle of friends since childhood–we all grew up together. I never would have thought that we would grow apart one day. But as you age, distance does occur. You may still feel close to this sister and crave her presence as I did with my friends. But eventually, I had to accept the fact that our lives were heading in different directions. It is not easy letting go, but even after talking to your friend, if the relationship/friendship just does not seem like it will last, then maybe it is best to let go. Letting go does not mean cutting her off though–just to expect less of her, esp since you both run in the same circle of friends. I hope that things do work out for you if they are meant to be the best for you, insha’Allah. But know that Allah SWT only tests you with that which you can handle. You have a ways ahead of you to make long-lasting, meaningful, faith-based relationships iA. I pray that this becomes one of them if it is meant to, but if not, then that you are blessed with far more than you currently have iA.

The original post can be viewed here: Genetically Born to Be a Loser