Need Advice

Dear Fatima, I am a 21 year old girl. I have gotten myself in a sticky situation and have been feeling increasingly guilty over it. I have severe social anxiety and depression. We have a friend group of 6 girls One girl I will call “A” is on bad terms with girl “B” and I am close to girl B only. girl A was talking about girl B behind her back and I was upset because it was about me too and so I told girl B about the conversation but now I feel bad because I feel like I separated A and B more from each other. I know I can’t control everything that happens between them but how can I genuinely try to break the rift between them that may have been caused by me? I feel incredibly guilty and want to help them connect back together

As Salaam Alaikum

I think it is great that you are wanting to take responsibility for your part in this, but I also agree with you – you do not have control over everything. I do think it would be wise to explain to Friend A why you shared that conversation with Friend B. We all make little mistakes and its ok, it’s how we move forward with them. It is important to understand the source of your remorse and acknowledge your rationale of your part. Also allow yourself time to grieve the regret. By addressing the situation with Friend A you will be able to express your emotions so that you are not limiting your present happiness. Remember, this may feel big right now, but once you come to terms with your emotions and talk to your friends, it can help reduce the complexity of the problem.

Grow past the pain of mistakes. Grow past the shame. Be involved in things that will bring you gladness, not guilt, for today and for the future.

Sincerely,

Your sister in Islam

Fatima X