Feeling disqualified and undeserving of marriage
Assalamu alaikum. I’m a 22 year old woman living in Norway. Lately I’ve been reflecting so much on my past friendship. I thank Allah every day for ending it. Because He saved me from someone I didn’t even realize was that damaging to me.
At the time, I was living in an emotionally abusive household (and still do). The anger, resentment, and pain I carried toward my family used to drain me. It made me want to heal because it was too much carrying it. But my ex-friend who also once lived in an abusive household, told me I couldn’t heal unless I escaped. That I had to run. That staying meant I was stuck.
And while I know I do want to move out one day I’ve tested what it’s like to live alone. I’ve experienced fending for myself rent, bills, groceries, responsibilities and wallahi, it hurt me more than staying did. With debilitating anxiety, even showing up for uni can feel impossible. The thought of having to show up daily for a job just to survive? It crushes me. It’s not just hard it burns me out.
I don’t say this to idealize my current environment it’s far from healthy, but I know where my limits are. That’s why I prefer interdependence.
Like what I have with my mom: she covers the rent and utilities. I cover groceries. We help each other.
I know that when I move, it will be when I’m married, in a partnership built on mutual care.
But my friend didn’t honor that. She wanted me to take steps in healing her way.
She’d throw comments like, “I wish you’d do what you did when you were 17 and just leave again.”
And that hurt. It made me feel like I was failing for choosing to stay for knowing myself.
And the truth is, while venting to her sometimes felt good, her words planted seeds in me that grew into poison. She’d say things like, “Do you think your mom resents you for having you?”
And suddenly I found myself picking fights with my mom to prove it to confirm a prophecy I didn’t even believe in until she said it.
Or when I sent her a video of me deep cleaning (because I enjoy doing it), she said,
“Why do you keep cleaning for people who don’t appreciate you?”
Before that, wallahi, I never thought of cleaning that way. But after that comment, every time I cleaned, it led to arguments. I started pointing out how unappreciated I felt. How no one said thank you. How everything was always dirty again.
And while yes, the pain of being unappreciated is real because we all want to be seen. I also know not everyone has the capacity to show appreciation in the way I long for. That doesn’t make my feelings invalid. But it does mean I need to be more mindful of my energy and who I let speak into it and who I need to surround myself with.
SubhanAllah, the moment that friendship ended, I began to soften. It didn’t take long. Just a week later, I noticed I was calmer.
For so long, I believed I was just an angry person. Always fighting, always holding grudges.
But once she was gone, I realized I’m actually a soft person. I never had to learn how to approach things with softness. It came naturally once I wasn’t constantly in defense mode.
I still struggle. I still sometimes feel unappreciated when I clean. I still sometimes feel like I carry things alone especially with an 18 year old sister who won’t help, and a mother who is disabled and still tries to shoulder what she can (and I do appreciate her for that).
But through experience, I’ve come to know: I can’t bring these needs up expecting change (with my family to be specific)
So now, I feel the grief. I let myself feel the sadness of not being supported but I don’t cling to the people who can’t meet that need. Because I know I’m meant to be a wife one day in a relationship rooted in mutual appreciation and love. That hope keeps me going. That knowing makes it easier.
And wallahi, something I found in the Qur’an has stayed with me:
When Prophet Musa عليه السلام said to Allah, “I only have control over myself” regarding Bani Isra’il, Allah told him to just leave them.
If a prophet tasked with leading a nation knew his limit, knew he couldn’t force people into the promised land, the surely I too must know mine.
I cannot make my sister clean nor force appreciation. I can only act from a place of clarity and peace and trust that Allah sees me.
While ending that toxic friendship was a blessing, I’ve never felt this exhausted before. I freeze more, second guess myself more, and sometimes feel like I don’t even know how to be human or be with people anymore. I’m always waiting for the next shoe to drop. Conflicts with her made me even more afraid to approach her. I’ve heard that active listening helps people feel heard and connected, but I didn’t do it for her sake. I did it because it’s who I am, because connection and relationships are my values. Active listening became part of that for me to understand deeply how my hurt impacted her, so I could offer clarity. I knew her way of reassurance was clarity, mine was gentleness and being told I’m loved, that mistakes wouldn’t change how she sees me.
But when I asked questions to understand, she twisted it into me making excuses or not taking accountability. When I fully took responsibility but expressed my hurt over her lashing out, she called it excuses. When I was confused and sought clarity, she got frustrated and angry that I didn’t “understand.” I found myself rushing just to grasp it all, and it left me drained. Now I’m so sensitive, crying a lot, feeling like I can’t be in a relationship at all.
Then eight months later, Allah blessed me with a beautiful soul as a friend. I didn’t even seek her out. I was so reserved, no energy, no hope, but she pursued me and asked to be my friend. Saying yes was the best decision. She’s been so gentle and loving, but even now, after seven months, I find myself still bleeding in this friendship. I wonder why she’s so kind, and I cry a lot. If there’s conflict, I have no energy for it. I’m severely burnt out. I don’t want to accept that conflicts are normal in relationships because they’ve only drained me.
I cry a lot, shiver, and have panic attacks when I think about conflicts. I know a new relationship won’t erase old hurt, you just keep bleeding. That’s the reality of being human. Especially now, with my deep desire for marriage and making lots of dua, I feel so disqualified, like I’m not meant for it. Conflicts and disagreements are part of relationships, but even the word “conflict” triggers me. I have no energy to engage, no energy to acknowledge my own hurt. During conflicts, I just wish I didn’t exist. It’s so bad.
With my ex-friend, I wasn’t offered grace when I shut down. I was called manipulative, a gaslighter, insulted. I was deeply hurt but never lashed out. I just expressed my hurt. I found myself wondering, are my standards too high? No one is perfect. No one is always composed and never lashes out. But I’m so self-aware it hurts. I have strong self-restraint that I hate. When I speak of hurt, I address it without accusing. I name the behavior, not label the person. I say, “What you’re doing is rude,” not, “You’re a rude person.”
This is how I’ve always been, even at age five. When I’m angry or messy or human, my anger coexists with compassion. One doesn’t overpower the other. Now I wonder if that’s bad, because I see others, like my ex-friend who felt only anger towards me and stood up for themselves. I did feel angry, I didn’t deny it, I stood up for my self, advocated for myself but my anger naturally coexists with my compassion and hurt. When I called her out, I was honest but still showed grace, gave her the benefit of the doubt and room to grow. It wasn’t reciprocal.
I now feel like there are so many faults in how I approach things. Like the day before my exam, my nephew broke my glasses. I was so sad and crying because I needed to pass that exam (Alhamdulillah I did), and my father abuses us financially, so I knew he wouldn’t fix my glasses. I couldn’t afford it. My first instinct wasn’t to lash out. My nephew came to me and apologized. I hugged him, thanked him for his honesty, and told him how hurt I was. I wasn’t mad at him ( I genuinely wasn’t) I told him it could’ve been me breaking them. I was sad it happened, not mad at him, and I told him I love him. I appreciated that he felt safe to tell me the truth instead of hiding it. After crying and calming down, I fixed my glasses, Alhamdulillah.
But I feel something is inherently wrong with me as though I’m deeply flawed. That friendship ruined my sense of self, I genuinely mean it. I’m so drained from conflicts in general. I have no energy left. I no longer associate with people like my ex-
friend. Allah didn’t save me from her just for me to throw myself into another fire.
I know I need therapy, but that’s a painful story in itself. Since 2020, I’ve faced constant rejection and bullying from mental health professionals. Back then, I was severely depressed after being abused at home and at school my physics teacher abused me and yelled at me. I changed schools but was so depressed I barely showed up. I made the mistake of opening up to the school nurse, who involved a psychologist and school supervisor, but instead of help, all three bullied me questioning how I could be depressed yet have ambitions. They shared everything with my teachers who “accommodated” me by pushing me into anxiety triggering situations disguised as help. Seven adults monitored me weekly, criticizing me until I dropped out in early 2021.
I was supposed to graduate and go to uni that August, but I took a year and a half off doing nothing. Upon turning 18 I pressured me to work, because I was rejected for financial aid for being “too young.” Over five months, I saw multiple doctors. One referred me to a psychiatric unit, which rejected me for “manageable symptoms.” When I begged for help, my doctor said no and ended care. At that moment I decided I can no longer rely on them, I have to get back to school and make it to uni. I finally graduated in 2023. When i started uni I was instantly burnt out from my first week. I went to see a nee doctor then she referred me to a trauma psychologist but in my referral letter which was mocking me claiming I’m making things up which led to rejection. I fell deeper into depression, then struggled with binge eating, insulin resistance, and irregular cycles. I failed my first year of uni and lost financial support (I felt like I was reliving 2021 all of again..)
In 2024, I hoped financial aid rejection would finally push my doctor to help. Instead, she dismissed me saying I was young, pretty, and should wait, comparing me to worse cases. That crushed me. I spiraled into severe depression again. Once again I was filled with so much rage that I challenged it into passing my classes. I managed to lose 10 kg, worked hard through tough classes of biomedical subjects, and passed despite family financial abuse and birth control side effects.
Finally, I got financial support in 2025. I started praying daily, asking Allah for healing, this time disregarding internal healing but for my circumstances to improve. I was getting sick of hearing the ayah “Allah won’t change the conditions of the people unless they change what’s within themselves”. I spent the entirety of Ramadan telling Him I desperately want to get married, but my anxiety makes it impossible to meet anyone without medication. Both me and Allah know I can’t get married if I don’t address my anxiety that inhibits me from leaving the house to begin with. In March, I wrote an application, it being my 7th attempt. I was willing to accept abuse just to get the help I need. I was willing to be abused by my doctor, to be medically gaslit once again because I deeply desire marriage. I’m sick of people telling me do you desire marriage or are you desperate for it to save you? I don’t see marriage as an answer to my problems. I will carry my wounds with me into my marriage as I do in my friendship and my relationship with Allah. I just crave companionship, love, tranquility, mercy and safety. This time around to increase my chances of being heard, I applied for government psychological support and had hope when the woman promised to advocate for me and to speak to my doctor on my behalf. But nothing happened no calls, no referrals. My doctor said she never heard from anyone. Doors that slightly opened slammed shut.
Now I’m not angry, just curious about God’s plan. I know Allah is Al-Hakim, but what does Allah intend for me to do now? for I’m genuinely getting tired of taking 10 steps forward just to end up leading nowhere. I can’t help but feel marriage has been taken from me. Because how will I meet my husband unless I address my anxiety so I can at least be around people. Even the doors to healing are all closed. I’m getting sick of the notion of Allah’s perfect timing, there has to be more than that. So now I’m curious what do I do? I no longer have a fight in me and find myself giving up on marriage since the doors have clearly been closed. I’m just so tired, I was willing to be abused by my doctor, for her to write a negative report, to be gaslit by her, to be negatively evaluated and so much worse and sometimes she even yells at me. It hurts, but if it at least lead me to a better door in which I could address my anxiety I was willing to walk through it. She was my only option, because in Norway, you can only change doctors twice a year and I’ve already used it up
All in all. I just feel so disqualified from love, from marriage and I’m so drained and so overwhelmed.
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Response from a “Fatima Counselor”:
Assalaamu Alaikum,
After years of abandonment, betrayal, and abuse from so many trusted people in your life I can understand your constant state of burnout and exhaustion. This level of strain on your heart can overwhelm your nervous system, produce PTSD symptoms and throw you into freeze and flee states. When a person is feeling this way her experience is analogous to feelings of constantly drowning and desperately trying to catch the closest lifesaver that will bring her relief, whatever that may be. And ultimately what you are searching for, as you have mentioned, is the opposite of all your negative experiences: companionship, love, tranquility, mercy and safety.
In these desperate survival states, we tend to have tunnel vision so that we can reach safety via the quickest and shortest route possible. Can marriage be a path to companionship, love, tranquility, mercy and safety? Absolutely. But what most people realize in their marriages is that it takes an incredible amount of work and healing to get there. It is definitely not the quickest path. Marriage is typically one of the most challenging relationships people can have as it brings out both the best and worst in you, regardless of who your partner is. Why? Because the closest relationship we have that is similar to marriage is our own family relationships. So our bodies will subconsciously react, respond and view a marital partner the same way we showed up in our family systems. Our minds will go as far as translating our partners behaviors through the lens of our deepest wounds caused by our family relationships. And these lenses are created both by the active abuse or injustices inflicted by our families, as well as by the ways we learned to cope and survive these relationship dynamics. And these are all reflexive responses, and not ones we think about. The only way to avoid recreating the toxic dynamics of our past relationships is by actively processing our pain, identifying our subconscious behaviors and learning how to connect with loved ones in healthy ways. Oftentimes we don’t even realize the wounds and survival strategies we bring into relationships until they are activated by marriage partners or other deeply intimate relationships. Unless of course we spend time uncovering them in therapy. In other words, your likelihood of finding safety and tranquility in marriage, as well as your confidence in being a worthy marital partner will increase when you are able to find it within yourself, your family, friends and Allah.
You already embody, patience, empathy and self-awareness. An increase in healthy boundaries, self-advocacy and balance in relationships will help them feel safer and decrease your anxiety. I know you are highly motivated to seek mental health services, but it is imperative you find the right therapy and mental health professional for your needs. If accessibility is an issue I would consider low cost coaching services that are not bound by location that can help you adequately process and heal the way you need. Once all of these elements fall into place, Allah’s mercy and plan for you will become clear for you especially as your nervous system becomes more calm and you are physically able to place your trust in Him.
From Your Sister in Islam,
“Fatima AH”
Response from an additional “Fatima Counselor”:
Wa alaykum asalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu,
You’ve endured cycles of emotional pain and systemic injustice. No wonder you feel exhausted and on the edge of burnout. Oftentimes when a person encounters hardship after hardship, they can start to become hopeless or even cynical, but you keep anchoring yourself in hope and trust in Allah (swt).
In your times of vulnerability and needing support, you felt dismissed by those who you trusted like your friend, teachers and medical professionals. With your friend, you took the brave steps to safeguard your qualities of compassion by distancing yourself from her harmful advice that planted seeds to second-guess yourself. When it comes to the teachers and other healthcare systems, it sounds like your pace, your agency, and your needs were not taken into consideration.
While it may feel like you claw yourself out from a pit only to fall and end up stuck, the reality is that even with all the barriers and the very valid fear you felt, you passed school, you overcame an unhealthy relationship, developed grit and courage, nurturing a healthy friendship, continue to support family, and strengthened your trust and reliance in Allah (swt). You’ve come a long way. You maintain empathy and ‘softness’ when you could’ve become hardened and jaded.
This softness is ‘hilm’ or forbearance. ‘Hilm’ comes from Allah (swt)’s name Al-Haleem which describes His tolerance, patience, serenity, and leniency in forgiving, and He loves when His servants manifest this attribute. It is your strength that when someone wrongs you that instead of embarrassing or using harsh words, you silence your nafs, or ego, and are gentle with them. With every strength, we have a responsibility to exercise it with wisdom. There are times when our hilm, or forbearance, may encourage the other party through their ignorance to continue or even increase in their harmful behaviors causing damage to themselves and us. In this case, it is imperative that we practice healthy boundaries. For example, giving yourself permission to decline or say ‘no,’ and when there are points of contention, agreeing to disagree. You can control what you say, your body language, your intention, and your behaviors. So, you were in charge of your choice to provide active listening and reassurance to your friend, but it is not in your hands to have your friend see and understand your care. Sometimes we have to step away and accept the other person’s inability or resistance toward understanding our good intentions.
Right now, your nervous system is so burnt out that even healthy conflicts feel like danger. This is because your trauma history has conditioned your brain to equate emotional confrontation with harm. This can be rewired slowly and gently through safe relationships and trauma-informed therapy. Your experiences of shutdown, tears, and panic attack is your nervous system acknowledging that you’ve had to do too much for too long with little support. So, let’s honor that your nervous system’s need is self-compassion. I invite you to try a self-compassion break:
1. Acknowledge your feelings without judging yourself by observing and naming the suffering. “This is stress” “I am noticing (sensation) in my (body part.)”
2. Recognize that everyone is going through some struggle. “I am not alone.”
3. Practice self-kindness by speaking to yourself like a friend and placing your hand over your heart. You can even write a letter to yourself as if you were consoling a friend and read it back to yourself.
4. Pray for yourself using Allah (swt)’s Attributes. “Ya Jabbar (Oh Mender and Restorer), mend my broken heart (mind, body, relationship.
With sincere compassion and belief in your healing,
Your Sister in Islam,
“Fatima SA”
Response from your friend at Stones to Bridges:
Walaykum assalam my dear sister,
I hear you. I hear your exhaustion throughout your post, and I can’t imagine how much weight you are carrying. Between your parents, your ex-friend and even with the relationship you have with yourself, all these pains and struggles have added so much to your plate that you cannot hold anything more. It isn’t easy, but I feel that perhaps these struggles are making you stronger. Despite the challenges you’re facing, you haven’t given up on yourself and your well-being. You’re actively trying to seek out therapy and put in the work to become a wife and mother someday (insha’Allah) but more than that, you’re investing into your own growth and development for your own soul.
Something that I think about is how one of our most difficult trials in life is our interactions and relationships with others. Each person not only has a story of their own, but they also carry burdens, knowingly or unknowingly. Not is self-aware and able to recognise how their actions affect others. It’s wonderful to read of how you are currently going through a lot of growing and are realising certain things about yourself. This is a beautiful thing!
One thing, however, is that we have been promised that we will absolutely face trials and challenges. Each passing trial presents a great opportunity to continue on your path to self-discovery, healing and ultimately work on becoming closer to Allah (SWT).
May Allah bless you with the best of this life and the next.
All the best,
Your sister in faith,
Peer Support Volunteer NL
Here are some additional posts on this topic that you may find helpful: https://www.stonestobridges.org/2025/06/10/i-feel-like-giving-up/ https://www.stonestobridges.org/2024/09/18/conflicted-on-naseeb/ https://www.stonestobridges.org/2024/05/31/finding-love/
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Habiba K
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu Dear Sister.
What you shared is deep and painful, and your words resonate deeply. I can see that you are a sensitive, intelligent, and spiritually aware young woman who has been deeply hurt by people who should have offered safety. And despite abuse, betrayal, neglect, and medical gaslighting, you still show up in your home, in your education, in your friendships, in your prayers, and in your dreams. Your gentleness, wisdom, faith, and depth of thought are truly moving.
Please know that no one is disqualified from marriage. Your desire for companionship, love, tranquility, mercy, and safety in marriage is natural and beautiful. While your anxiety may present some challenges, it does not disqualify you from being in a marital relationship. Many people with anxiety disorders have successful, loving marriages. The reality is that we all have one baggage or another that we carry. And while healing is part of the journey, Allah can send your spouse even before you feel completely whole. Many people heal through the experience of being loved gently. The key is in finding a partner who is compassionate, understanding, and willing to navigate these challenges with you. This requires honesty with a potential spouse about your anxiety, your past trauma, and your needs. So, make du’a specifically for a spouse who understands your struggles and for an easy path to meet him.
The friendship you described was manipulative. You were made to feel unsafe in your own self. Your compassion and ability to hold anger and mercy together are not flaws, they are a great gift from Allah. So, when you ask if something is wrong with you because you do not lash out, I say no, everything is right with you. You have true inner power. Your ability to meet harm with self-restraint and reflection speaks to the depth of your character, and it is a mark of true emotional and spiritual maturity. You are not broken; you are just someone who sees the value of peace over ego. Alhamdulillah for the end of that friendship. It truly was a blessing. Your ability to soften and rediscover your true, compassionate self immediately afterward is a beautiful testament to your inherent goodness and resilience.
The panic, freezing, over-apologizing, inability to process conflict is a likely reaction to the trauma you experienced. When conflict has been associated with emotional punishment or rejection, you naturally want to avoid it at all costs. It is not that you are too sensitive, it is just a way of trying to protect yourself from more hurt. It does not mean you are unlovable. It shows you are deeply in need of safety. You do not need to toughen up to be in a relationship. What you need is someone whose softness can meet yours and whose heart does not punish yours for shutting down. And it is possible to find that person.
It is completely understandable that you feel exhausted and drained. After repeatedly reaching out for help and facing rejection, gaslighting, and even abuse from the very systems meant to heal you, it is natural to feel like giving up. That feeling of moving forward only to land in the same place can be exhausting, and it can feel like life is playing a cruel game. But if you do not know it, you also are doing ibadah and just because you cannot see progress on the outside does not mean it is not happening inside.
Your perseverance through such trials is a sign of your immense strength and faith. Allah sees every tear, every moment of pain, every silent struggle. Your desperation for healing, even if it meant enduring further abuse, shows a profound desire for a better life and for the ability to fulfill your aspirations. Your clarity about your needs and boundaries, especially concerning interdependence and your preference for a supportive marriage, speaks volumes about your self-awareness. Moving back in with your mum was the best decision for you. And your understanding of the example of Musa (as) and applying it to your own situation with your family is incredibly insightful. It shows a mature understanding of knowing what is within your control and what is not. This wisdom is a gift.
Hardships are a means of spiritual growth and purification. Every step you take, even the ones that seem to lead nowhere, builds strength, resilience, and clarity. It is not wasted. You are not back at the beginning, you are someone wiser, stronger, and more self-aware than before. Sometimes the path winds, sometimes it stalls, but it is still a path. Please do not give up. Rest if you need to but know that the cycle is not endless. Breakthroughs often come just after we are ready to stop trying. I know it is not easy but do your best to continue maintaining sabr, Allah is always with the patient.
With regards to the challenges you have faced with the mental health system, I wanted to suggest some potential avenues for consideration. For instance, are there any patient advocacy organizations or human rights groups in Norway that assist individuals who have faced medical negligence or bullying from health professionals? They might be able to guide you on how to file a formal complaint or access alternative services. Also, since you are at university, does your school offer any confidential student counseling or health services? They might have different protocols or be able to offer referrals within the university system, away from your current doctor. Sometimes universities also have legal aid clinics that might be able to advise you on your rights as a patient. You mentioned that you have used up your doctor change options for the year. Is there the possibility of getting a referral from a different type of specialist who might, in turn, be able to refer you to a psychiatrist or psychologist with a different perspective or through a different pathway?
Your new friend sounds like a true blessing. Please lean into her gentleness. Healing takes time. When conflicts or disagreements arise, which are normal in any relationship, remember that she is coming from a place of love and gentleness. Perhaps you can even let her know that you are still learning how to navigate conflict in a healthy way because of past experiences. And ask her to be patient with you. Your ability to show compassion even in anger, to address behavior without labeling, and to appreciate honesty from your nephew, is a beautiful and rare quality. Please do not let your ex-friend’s toxicity make you doubt your inherent goodness. You expressed the grief of not being supported and the sadness of unmet needs. It is okay to allow yourself to feel these emotions without clinging to those who cannot meet them. This is a vital part of healing.
I want to encourage you to continue making du’a. Allah loves to be asked, especially by those who are distressed. Your frustration is understandable, but remember that Allah’s timing is perfect for you, even if we do not understand it now. Continue to reflect more on Allah’s beautiful names: Ar-Rahman (The Most Merciful), Ar-Rahim (The Especially Merciful), Al-Latif (The Subtle, The Kind), Al-Wadud (The Most Loving). He is intimately aware of your suffering. Also, the ayah you referenced “Allah won’t change the conditions of the people unless they change what’s within themselves” is addressing effort and internal change. It does not say you are solely responsible for the abuse you faced or the lack of external support. It means that even amidst your external battles, your continuous striving for healing, your self-awareness, and your turning to Allah are the internal changes that will eventually lead to external shifts. Your determination to pass classes, lose weight, and seek help despite everything is you changing what is within yourself.
Please persevere in seeking professional help for your anxiety and trauma. Do not give up on this, even when doors seem to close. Continue to seek the right mental health support, no matter how frustrating it is. Know that Allah can open doors you never imagined. Be kind to yourself and nurture yourself through self-compassion, your new healthy friendship, and your strong spiritual connection. Trust in Allah’s divine plan. Your trials are refining you, making you incredibly strong and wise. They are teaching you resilience, self-awareness, and empathy in a way few people experience. This will make you an exceptional wife and partner when the time is right. And do not give up on du’a for marriage. Even if the path seems unclear, your fervent desire and turning to Allah is a powerful act.
Your journey has been incredibly painful, but you are emerging from the ashes with remarkable strength and clarity. Do not lose hope. Do not give up, not on marriage, not on your path to healing, not on Allah. Always keep in mind that Allah intends nothing but the best for you. He is the Best of Planners; you are firmly within His care and under His watchful guidance.
My dear Sister, you are beautifully created by Allah with purpose and perfection, you are more than enough just as you are, your beauty shines from within and reflects in all you do, you radiate confidence softness and strength, every scar and story makes you more beautiful, you deserve a partner who sees your soul and your worth, you are loved by Allah and that is the purest love. Please make Allah’s love your anchor.
May Allah heal you, surround you with His mercy, open doors only He can open, and grant you a loving husband.
Your Sister in Islam
Peer Support Volunteer Habiba K